A Beautiful Mess

You've got the best of both worlds
You're the kind of girl who can take down a man,
And lift him back up again
You are strong but you're needy,
Humble but you're greedy
And based on your body language,
And shoddy cursive I've been reading
Your style is quite selective,
though your mind is rather reckless
Well I guess it just suggests
that this is just what happiness is

Hey, what a beautiful mess this is
It's like picking up trash in dresses

Well it kind of hurts when the kind of words you write
Kind of turn themselves into knives
And don't mind my nerve you could call it fiction
But I like being submerged in your contradictions, dear
'Cause here we are, here we are

Although you were biased I love your advice
Your comebacks ‒ they're quick
And probably have to do with your insecurities
There's no shame in being crazy,
Depending on how you take these
Words that paraphrasing this relationship we're staging

And what a beautiful mess, yes it is
It's like picking up trash in dresses

Well it kind of hurts when the kind of words you say
Kind of turn themselves into blades
And the kind and courteous is a life I've heard
But it's nice to say that we played in the dirt
'Cause here, here we are, here we are
Here we are [x7]

We're still here
What a beautiful mess this is
It's like taking a guess when the only answer is "Yes"

Through timeless words and priceless pictures
We'll fly like birds not of this earth

And tides ‒ they turn ‒ and hearts disfigure
But that's no concern when we're wounded together

And we tore our dresses and stained our shirts
But it's nice today. Oh, the wait was so worth it. 

Words Women Should Live By

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Beware Of The Mindfucker

Beware of the mindfucks - from Urban Dictionary

a concept or argument which is fraught with contradictions, and is used as a control tool.

verb: to confuse or reshape your thought the way the "mindfucker" wants you to think. making you question, doubt, or acquire a new set of ideas based off what the perpetrator has told you.

Deliberately producing misleading information to an innocent victim for the amusement or enjoyment of it and usually produced out of boredom or spite of that person or group.

A More Intimate Post

I dated this man for about a month:

"I'm a fun loving guy who loves to be active. I am intelligent, ambitious, generous to a fault, loving, caring, passionate, funny, honest and loyal. I love to travel and try new things. I am also a sports fan especially Hockey (Rangers) and Football (Giants) but I also enjoy going to most other sporting events. Keeping in shape is pretty important to me. I try to run, lift and do yoga on a regular basis andI hope to find someone who also enjoys being active.It's not a requirement though. So, if I've caught your interest and you'd like to know more let know. Can't wait to hear from you!"

He listed himself as athletic build but when I met him clearly he was at least 50 lbs overweight. I also think he changed his

bio recently because he had the Yankees listed and he also added: I'm looking for: a date, friend along with marriage and children, which were the only things listed before.

But here's the kicker he wrote this as well: "Communication will make or break a relationship. If you have problems communicating, get therapy and learn how to talk. There are not enough miles on earth to run, enough minutes in a lifetime to think, nor epiphanies in circulation that can benefit your mind, body, and spirit better than an honest and open conversation.Indecis ion is a relationship killer. Ambiguity and lying are close bed fellows."

This guy is the one who needs the therapy the most. He was the biggest game player, refused to communicate and at the littlest attempts to talk maturely with him he would make put downs or tell me I didn't need to say that, as in my telling him that after a few weeks of dating an invite to my home was not a sign of an invite for something sexual. I said it nicer of course.

OK so why am I writing this post. I almost got completely off topic. Well, you see the games really messed me up. As someone who truly wants to go into a relationship with openness and the best of intentions and not already wanting to believe someone is lying I let some things slide, but this was like the story of the frog in a pot. The next thing I know I'm feeling angry and hurt and disrespected. My poor friends listened to my unbalanced emotions trying to make sense of what I was feeling verses what was being said to me. BTW that's called Crazymaking and it's a legitimate term of emotional abuse.

In the effort to find some sanity for my choice in allowing this person into my life even for a brief time I - now that I'm more calm and at peace want to list the things I actually liked about this person:

He was generous, charming, and politically conservative and pro- Israel.

What I didn't like about him:

He was unstable, unreliable, played too many games ie: lying about problems with his phone and forcing me to speak to his vm and not returning texts (none of which were initiated by me on a daily basis mind you), which leads to more games of control issues, and he is a coward.

I will never be able to understand why he said the following to me: "If that's what it takes to get you hooked on me I'll do it because I want you hooked."

I suppose he couldn't really see me as another person, which allowed him to play the games he did with no guilt. But if I could give some advice to any single men coming upon this blog it would be to remind you not to do these things. We really do not need nor want you to tell us things that aren't true. You aren't sparing our feelings. In fact by doing so you are just working an inflated ego of yours. Really we are ok if you are "just not that into us." Don't string us along.

A Pirate and a Prick

Normally I just post the moronic bios single men have online. Today I'm going to tell you about my speed dating pathetic situation this past week.

Besides the fact that the company doesn't require that the ages listed for the event actually are adhered to I was subjected to a guy who decided it was funny and appropriate to show up in his Medieval Times Pirate costume.

This was a moment I thought was always dramatized for the movies, for that funny moment. But alas, it was real. When it was his turn to come around to me he was so pushy and upset that I had nothing to say to him and demanded an answer as to why.

Hmmm, let's see: You showed up in a costume that is for your lame job and used a fake accent. You don't take yourself seriously nor the situation or the other person so tell me why should I?

Worse, after the entire event, even though some woman seemed to be willing to talk with him, he decided to follow me out, actually chase me out on the street screaming my name telling me how mean and judgmental I am.

Can we barf now?

Onto the prick. BTW he lives in Queens, somehow has a son and is already divorced about a year even though that son is only 3years old. We both agreed to want to talk further so our names were sent to each other through the site we used for the dating event.

Let's see what I learned:

He has a potty mouth and says really gross immature things and talked about a supposed female friend and didn't have nice things to say about her. Hmmm Thought it was funny to talk about friends with benefits. Divulged that his wife "did something very wrong" which is why he gets to see his son so much more now.

Oh and the cherry on top was the following. He wanted to go out tonight, asking me late on a Friday BUT he wanted me to make plans with him but not solid plans and I should be ok with this because he had possibly plans and if they came through then we would not go out.

When I said no you could hear a pin drop. From that point on I got "ah huh" "Yep" and "ok"

I mean really how dare I have a life. How dare I have plans for myself and not drop them for him when he is not willing to do the same for me. Apparently Sunday wasn't good enough to make plans when neither of us had other thing already scheduled. Instead I got this lovely email today:

"I think I am going to pass on us meeting tomorrow evening.

I actually enjoyed our conversation but I think you took my hesitation for making plans tonight due to being waitlisted for a singles party on LI the wrong way. I had no intention of making you "sloppy seconds" or however you phrased it.

More so, I was actually a little put off on your, "you buy I fly". I definitely have no problem taking us out but when someone tells me before we've even been on 1 date that she dosen't pay for dates, it came across as pretty selfish. I work for the City, I have an (almost) 3 year old and since this is 2011, I think if both parties work that the guy should not always be obligated to pay 100% of the time. I am more than generous but I actually just ended it with someone I met earlier this Summer who never even offered to buy me so much as a bottle of water at a ballgame. I think you see my point. "

Booo hooo dad of a three year old who's divorced....thinks women should buy water for him and if he doesn't he dumps her. LOSER!

So here is what I wrote back:

	I'm actually glad you canceled. I think you're an asshole. You don't like women, and you think we should be available at your whim. You made a lot of very immature comments that by your age should not be coming out of your mouth. You are so disrespectful. The comment about your ex wife was so rude and nasty. I feel badly for her. Any woman with self respect will run from you. If you think I or any woman should sit around being available in case your plans fall through you really have your head up your ass. BTW real men pay for dates and don't get offended by the "you buy I fly". So fuck off.

This Is What I'm Subjected To! Seriously Aren't There Any Normal Decent Mature Jewish Men In NYC?

I received this reply in my dating email box today:

"Hello,

I was just wondering if you are a fan of smoking marijuana? if you are maybe we should chat? aaron"

ABSOLUTELY PATHETIC! REALLY?!? OF ALL THE THINGS THAT ARE IMPORTANT FOR A CONNECTION HIS DRUGS ARE FIRST CHOICE ABOVE THEM! LOSER!